#7. SEX
Making Love, Kinks, Porn, Affairs, Sex Workers

“The secret to a happy partnership? Keep the fights clean and the sex dirty.”

– Kevin Bacon

We’re all sexual beings continually hiding our primal desires in a futile attempt to appear civilized.

An estimated 1 in 5 men have a pornography addiction.

Sex workers are never short on clients.

The erotic novel, Fifty Shades of Gray, is one of the best-selling books of all time and brought the worlds of BDSM and kink into the mainstream.

Sexual escapes are very polarizing. They save marriages and destroy them just as often. They can make you feel wide-open and free, or else ashamed and hidden in a dark corner of the internet.

Sex as a means of escape is more popular than ever before in history.

YOUR ASSIGNMENT: Think about your own sexuality in the context of the past year. How have you used sex or sexuality as a positive escape? A negative? Do you binge-watch porn? Hire sex workers? Cheat on your spouse physically or emotionally? Or do you and your partner go to play parties together?

TIP: Sexuality is highly individual. There is no moral judgment suggested here. What feels essential for one person to feel alive might seem silly or even repulsive to someone else. Focus on you and your own sexuality. This is where you’ll make interesting discoveries.


IN YOUR JOURNAL

#1. Positive escapes (past year).

#2. Negative escapes (if any).

#3. How do you want to show up in the world? (next year)


TIME KEEPER
5-Minutes to write
3-Min/person to share
Optional questions after each share
Everyone shares one takeaways after everyone has shared
RULES OF ENGAGEMENT
GESTALT |
Speak from experience only, use “I” statements instead of “you.” Speak in past tense. Avoid the “should, would, or could.” Avoid generalities, be specific.

CONFIDENTIALITY |
What happens and what is shared in EO Forum stays in EO Forum.

PHONES OFF |
Turn off your phone during sessions.

NO SPECTATORS |
Participation is mandatory, no “flies on the wall.”

OPEN UP |
For best results, embrace honestly and vulnerability.